Some insights from Thrive by Ariana Huffington


Mentorbox was a great way to gain quick insights from the book Thrive by Ariana Huffington. The key theme of Thrive is that life is not only about Money and Power, it has a third pillar – Wellness, which is the ability to survive and thrive in this chaos. Wellness means focusing on well-being, wisdom, wonder and giving. The book suggests a list of possible things one can do to cultivate Wellness:

·      Unplug – from technology, at least two hours during your waking time – no phones, no television, no screens. Use the time instead for improving your health, mental wellness and cultivating wisdom.

·      Mindfulness – Sit with yourself in silence for a bit. Just start with a minute or two during the day, sitting still and focussing on your body or just observing your surroundings.

·      Meditation – Mindfulness is the beginning of meditation. Just sitting still and counting your breadths for those few minutes is a great start.

·      Giving – Altruism is a sure way to happiness. Give – even if it is just an honest compliment and do it every single day.

·      Life of Value – Life should not only be about how much you take or receive but more about how much value can you give back. Re-frame your work goals with a giving attitude. Imagine everything you do as exchange of value. What value are you giving to the world?

·      Wisdom – Everyday become a better version of yourself. Pay attention to what really matters, learn more or try something new, get out of your comfort zone.

·      Wonder – Ask the big questions, about the meaning of life. Why you are here and what is the purpose of life? By doing this, you will push yourself to be what you are meant to be.

·      Gratitude – Gratitude induces happiness and improve relationships. Every day, before going to sleep, remind yourself of five things that you are grateful for during that day.

·      Sleep – Do not ignore sleep. Sleep brings energy which leads to action which results in success. Give yourself the 7-8 hours of sleep that your body deserves. Be disciplined – sleep and wake up at the same time, avoid screen time at least one hour before sleep . . .

Thrive is about all of the above and much more with tools and tricks to get going!

Sandeep Jain

After 25 years in various finance and business leadership roles, I now work as a Strategy Consultant and Leadership & Life Coach, besides mentoring Scale-ups and Start-ups. Follow me on LinkedIn or feel free to write to me at sandeep.jain@value-unlocked.com

What is holding you back?

 

I was recently coaching a client who works with an MNC, and had engaged me in his personal capacity to help him restore his work-life balance.

After a couple of coaching sessions, he realised that what manifested as adverse work-life balance, had its roots in his ‘not so adequate’ time management skills which in turn stemmed from his inability to say No. He realised that at work, he just could not say no to people who kept intruding on his time, which resulted in work piling up; the only time he managed to get to work on his own was after office hours! It is not surprising for such revelations to surface during coaching sessions, where treating symptoms of issues may not help solve the actual problem.

As a Coach, I believe that individuals have all the wisdom within themselves to solve their challenges. It is just that they don’t get the time to think through their problem or don’t know how to take a deep dive within to find solutions or just need to find the right motivation to bring the desired change.

It will be a pleasure to exchange notes over a call/skype or catch up over a coffee cup coaching session (completely gratis!) to understand what is holding you back and if I could help you with any of your challenges.

After 25 years in various finance and business leadership roles, I now work as a Strategy Consultant and Leadership & Life Coach, besides mentoring Scale-ups and Start-ups. Feel free to connect with me via LinkedIn or write to me atsandeep.jain@value-unlocked.com

Get out of your comfort zone!

 

How often have we heard the phrase ‘getting out of your comfort zone’? While all of us relate to the phrase and use it extensively in our feedback discussions but do we really explain what it takes to get out of one’s comfort zone?
Comfort zone is being in a situation where one feels safe or at ease. It is a much-used method of working that is so ingrained in our minds that it requires little efforts or thinking but at the same time, only yields barely acceptable results. Comfort zone by its definition, minimizes stress due to a sense of familiarity and security in that space and mitigates risk due to certainty of outcomes from doing tried and tested things.
Getting out of our comfort zone means doing or maybe initially, just braving an attempt at tasks and activities that we have not done before. When we get out of our comfort zone, we are exposing ourselves to stress and anxiety because we are not quite sure of the outcome or our reaction to the new situation. However, this risk-taking ability is what all of us need to imbibe for the sake of our evolution. Whether we succeed or not in our attempt, the idea is to move towards getting comfortable with something completely new. Trying out new things outside of your comfort zone and getting used to them is bound to expand our comfort zone. Consciously or unconsciously, trying out new things is a natural course which we take to expand our horizons; the more we get out of our comfort zone, the more we expand our comfort zone, little by little!
What can you do to get out of your comfort zone?
· Pick up a new hobby – art, music, dramatics, writing, or anything else
· Try a different form of exercise – from what you are used to
· Change your routine – if you are a late riser, try getting up an hour earlier
· Join a continuing education program, even if it is a short one
· Read an author or a genre which you normally don’t
· Learn a new language
· Go on an adventure trip
Just do something that you haven’t done earlier!
As Robin Sharma writes, ‘As you move out of comfort zone, what was once the unknown and frightening becomes the new normal’. Taking risks is what helps us grow. Hence, seizing every opportunity to get out of our comfort zones lets us expand our horizons. We should really thank people who push us into such situations.
Let us all attempt to ‘get comfortable’ about getting out of our comfort zones!